What we learned from the ICM Sisters

MANILA, Philippines –  In my life, I’ve had several fantasies. I’ve dreamed of being a superhero, a prima ballerina, a master pianist, a recognized broadcaster, and a philanthropist, among other things. I envied Angelina Jolie not (entirely) for the ultimate achievement of snagging Brad Pitt and not because of her United Colors of Benetton-inspired brood but because of her humanitarian efforts. The multi-awarded actress has unquestionably outdone herself in making a mark in our lives not just as a celebrity but more importantly, as a do-gooder, an icon set on making a change in the world. And so, as a 20-something experiencing signs of quarter-life crisis, I add to my list of fantasy “I will be”s: Angelina Jolie. 

Now, if only I can make ends meet and pay my bills through charity, that would definitely top my list. But then again, you cannot give what you don’t have, right? 

This brings me back to reality. Maybe Jolie is too high a dream. After all, before Angie were Chit, Mel, Trina, Jessica and Margie. 

There are a few women I admire. Not only for the accomplishments they have reaped or for the success that they have achieved, but because of their contribution to the society. I have called them “Ma’am,” ”Tita” and I’ve been privileged enough to call one of them “Mom.”

This group of remarkable women are trailblazers in their own fields, respected by colleagues and are inspirations to many. 

I am fortunate to have met these women. Not everyone has had the opportunity to work with them or be taught and mentored by a couple of them. I have not told them this, but I have always felt honored to be in their presence; just sharing a laugh with them was, to me, a blessing.

Let me introduce to you the women who inspire me. Trina Yujuico-Kalaw, former Philippine Stock Exchange chair who I have known all my life. Many will remember her as one of the country’s top fashion models, and to this day, I am sure Tita Trina can still work the catwalk.

Jessica Soho, GMA-7’s vice president for News and George Foster Peabody awardee. As I entered GMA-7’s halls as a fresh graduate, I was not at all star-struck, what with all the artists running around the compound. I can still remember the moment Ma’am Jess entered our office and how spellbound I was by just her mere presence.

Mel Tiangco, EVP and COO of the Kapuso Foundation. Who doesn’t know Tita Mel? I have known Tita Mel for as long as I can remember and she has remained as warm and candid as she has always been even as I was a child. 

Dr. Carmencita Reodica (now known to me as Tita Chit), first female to head the Department of Health. In grade school, we were made to memorize the President’s Cabinet and, as I recall, Tita Chit was the only name I have retained up until now. I have looked forward to meeting her and I am happy, even giddy, to say that we are now working together in the STAA (St. Theresa’s Alumnae Association) board.

Lastly, Margie Penson Juico, former Appointments Secretary to President Corazon Aquino and now Chairman of the Philippine Charity Sweepstakes Office — proudly, to me, she is Mom. She is one of, if not the strongest, funniest woman that I know. I will forever be grateful for her amazing genes (no offense, Papa). As my father said during my mom’s birthday two years ago: “Simply, she is a good person.” And at the risk of heading Mom’s fans club, I will simply say: she is the best. 

So what do they all have in common? All of them are women of dedication, service, faith and discipline. Apart from that, these women are products of Missionary Sisters of the Immaculate Heart of Mary (ICM) schools. 

The ICM Congregation started their mission to the Philippines 100 years ago. On June 20, 1910, Mother Marie Louise de Meester of Roselare, Belgium arrived in Tagudin, Ilocos Sur. Originally composed of Belgian nuns, the ICM then started their mission of educating Filipinos. 

One hundred years after, we are celebrating the gift of the ICM education.

In line with the ICM Congregation’s Centennial celebration, I asked my top five about their most memorable experience in school alongside what they learned from the ICM nuns. 

Mel Tiangco

The most important thing I learned from the ICM Missionary Sisters is the sense of charity: no ulterior motive, no endgame. Selfless and freely given without thoughts of reciprocity or personal gain. Expecting nothing in return. Never a business transaction where the tool of the trade is money and fulfillment is measured in profit margins. The very act of charity is the reward and the profit in itself.

The sense of charity has become such a part of my being that public service has developed into a responsibility for me in gratitude for all the blessings the Lord has graciously bestowed on me and my family. Over time, the calling to serve has grown exponentially and eventually compelled me into taking this path of service with the GMA Kapuso Foundation.

There is this heartwarming feeling that I’ve come full circle from my days at STC QC as I have now taken on the role of teacher — enabling those under my care and tutelage to nurture the seeds of sharing, giving and serving until it grows into its full potential and branches out on its own. Just as the Sisters did for me then and as strong as their lifelong dedication to service continues to inspire me up to now.

Chit Reodica

When we’d be late for the flag ceremony on Mondays, as a punishment, the sisters would ask us to walk around the quadrangle for 30 minutes under the sweltering sun.

The best lessons I’ve learned are simplicity and obedience. These humble us in spite of fame or success.

Trina Kalaw

There are many of us who have succeeded in our individual niches, whether we are doctors, lawyers, accountants, artists, brokers, writers or simply mothers. A majority may not have had the same limelight as our acknowledged stars but we all share the same inner strength and discipline that our teachers have instilled in us  within the four walls of St. Theresa’s College. We face any test or challenge that confronts us. We learn from our experience victoriously. Hence, to all our teachers our eternal gratitude for their patience and care during our formative years.

Jessica Soho

 From my Catholic school upbringing, I learned that faith is important: faith that is essential and one that has nurtured and sustained me through the most difficult stages in my life and my career.

I remember the Belgian sisters in Christ the King — they instilled fear but they also taught us virtues and values.  

And the nuns and our religion teachers must have done a good job on me because every time someone did me wrong — somehow I always ended up remembering that one lesson they made sure we would never forget: the world may be filled with evil people but it is better to be a good person.

Margie P. Juico

When I was in high school my attention was caught by a sign in big, bold letters in the bulletin board which read, “Social Awareness, Involvement and Responsibility.” These words have, since then, found a home in my heart and has seen me through the many episodes of my life. I am just as fortunate to have a husband and children who continue to be faithful to this call. It has guided us in our dealings with people who have a lot less materially, people who are handicapped intellectually and emotionally, and those physically challenged. I thank my one and only school for being part of this significant influence in my life! I thank the ICM Sisters for making this happen!

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In the 100 years of the ICM education in the Philippines, it has truly succeeded in its mission — not only to educate but to set their students’ hearts on fire, blazing with compassion and goodness. 

Angelina Jolie had better watch out: even with her best Salt moves, my five women of substance match her anytime.