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March 17, 2006 | 12:00am
Dear China, Mai-Mai And Tingting,
I’m 24 years old, single, and have a stable job in a good company. Since everything is going well for me, I’d now want to do something about my love life. There are suitors that have been pursuing me but there are two guys that are special. The first guy is someone I practically grew up with. We’re neighbors and our parents are friends. We went to different schools but would see each other regularly in the village or in parties of common friends. He started courting me only when I went to college. The other guy was my barkada in college. We started as friends and after we graduated, we kept in touch and he started courting me. Both of them come from good families, good education, and have stable jobs too. I like both of them but if you were me, who would you choose?
Torn-Between-Two-Loves
Judging by your description, I like both of them too and I’m not surprised why you’re having a hard time deciding. But can you honestly say your feelings for them are equal? I find that hard to believe, because one should excite you more than the other. Just answer the island question: Who would you rather get stuck with on an island? Who will make being stranded easier? Who will help you survive in the island? Who among them will you be more comfortable with? Feel safe with? If you’re able to answer these honestly, then you’ll have your choice. Good luck!
China
Unfortunately, I cannot choose for you because I don’t know them like you do. But for purposes of discussion, I will give you some of my thoughts. The first guy, your childhood friend, might have an edge only because your parents and his are friends. In a society such as ours, that’s a big factor. On the other hand, this same guy might not be the one for you. Because you’re too familiar with each other, your feelings for him might be more brotherly than anything, and he the same. The second guy may be right for you because you started as friends. Relationships are better if you start off on the right foot. However, you didn’t say much about his family or if he has even met yours, so there’s a hole there. Actually, I don’t think you really have to hurry up in making a choice. If you wait, time will probably solve this one for you. Something will come up that will influence your decision. Don’t pressure yourself.
Mai-Mai
How lucky can a girl get? Not a lot of girls have the luxury of choosing between two equally good guys. You’ve stayed single and unattached and concentrated on reaching your goals, that is, to get a stable job. Now that you’ve achieved it, you are now going to the next phase, getting into a relationship. It seems as if you’ve been using your head and that’s good. Now, I think it’s time for you to use your heart. You cannot love two people at the same time with the same degree. It just doesn’t happen. Dig deep into your heart and find out who among the two you feel you want to grow old with. Who among them complements your personality? Who has the same values as you? Only you can decide.
Tingting
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I’m 24 years old, single, and have a stable job in a good company. Since everything is going well for me, I’d now want to do something about my love life. There are suitors that have been pursuing me but there are two guys that are special. The first guy is someone I practically grew up with. We’re neighbors and our parents are friends. We went to different schools but would see each other regularly in the village or in parties of common friends. He started courting me only when I went to college. The other guy was my barkada in college. We started as friends and after we graduated, we kept in touch and he started courting me. Both of them come from good families, good education, and have stable jobs too. I like both of them but if you were me, who would you choose?
Torn-Between-Two-Loves
Judging by your description, I like both of them too and I’m not surprised why you’re having a hard time deciding. But can you honestly say your feelings for them are equal? I find that hard to believe, because one should excite you more than the other. Just answer the island question: Who would you rather get stuck with on an island? Who will make being stranded easier? Who will help you survive in the island? Who among them will you be more comfortable with? Feel safe with? If you’re able to answer these honestly, then you’ll have your choice. Good luck!
China
Unfortunately, I cannot choose for you because I don’t know them like you do. But for purposes of discussion, I will give you some of my thoughts. The first guy, your childhood friend, might have an edge only because your parents and his are friends. In a society such as ours, that’s a big factor. On the other hand, this same guy might not be the one for you. Because you’re too familiar with each other, your feelings for him might be more brotherly than anything, and he the same. The second guy may be right for you because you started as friends. Relationships are better if you start off on the right foot. However, you didn’t say much about his family or if he has even met yours, so there’s a hole there. Actually, I don’t think you really have to hurry up in making a choice. If you wait, time will probably solve this one for you. Something will come up that will influence your decision. Don’t pressure yourself.
Mai-Mai
How lucky can a girl get? Not a lot of girls have the luxury of choosing between two equally good guys. You’ve stayed single and unattached and concentrated on reaching your goals, that is, to get a stable job. Now that you’ve achieved it, you are now going to the next phase, getting into a relationship. It seems as if you’ve been using your head and that’s good. Now, I think it’s time for you to use your heart. You cannot love two people at the same time with the same degree. It just doesn’t happen. Dig deep into your heart and find out who among the two you feel you want to grow old with. Who among them complements your personality? Who has the same values as you? Only you can decide.
Tingting
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