The long and short of it

Dear Marc,

I’m 21 and I want to know if it is normal for Filipinos to have a small member? Mine is only 5 inches long. My wish is that my member will be at least 6 inches. Do you think it’s possible for me to achieve that size? Can you suggest any method that I can use (not those supplements advertised on the Net, since I’m only a student and I can’t afford the stuff) I want to know if there is an exercise that will help lengthen my thing.

Shorty

Is it true that Asians have a lighter package than foreigners? Well, in general terms, yes. It is true, but maybe not in such an extensive way as you may think. Believe it or not, international studies have been conducted on this topic (I wonder which lucky girl got to measure all of those results!), and it was found that while Asians did have a smaller average size than other races, the difference was fairly minimal (only an inch shorter than a Caucasian average, and about another half an inch again from people of African origin).

Of course there are always exceptions to the rule, but there’s no use trying to measure up to a porn star when he’s boasting a footlong hotdog. Next to that, almost anyone is going to look like a cocktail frank! But as I said, those guys are the exception rather than the rule, and just to allay some of your fears, let me mention some other "one-eyed monster" myths for you.

Myth: A guy with big hands/feet/nose must have a proportionally large appendage. False! The size of the other body parts of a guy has nothing to do with the size of his phallus in the same way that it has no relation to how large say, his tongue is.

Myth: A tall guy naturally has a larger snake than a shorter guy. Nope! Wrong again! A man’s height or weight does not necessarily mean he’s better endowed. I’ve heard a girl complain about her 6’3" boyfriend’s size, and then turn around and reminisce about her ex who was only 5’7 but made up for his shorter standing height by having an impressive lying down height!

Myth: All black men are hung like a horse. While guys of African heritage can boast of having a longer average as a race, each person is individual, and so there are many that aren’t as genetically blessed as society might think.

Now, your size of 5 inches is right on average for an Asian male, so why are you so depressed? Do you get equally upset that you aren’t over 6 feet tall? My guess is you are average Pinoy height of about 5’6" to 5’9". There’s nothing wrong with that, and so there should also be no problem with your average sized length. That being said, let’s get down to the real reason you’ve written. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll probably admit that this is such a big issue for you because of sex. You’re afraid you won’t measure up to a girl’s expectations perhaps?

You’re worried that a girl you like will expect something a lot bigger, and you’re scared that what you have won’t be enough to satisfy her. Well I’ll let you in on a few little secrets. Firstly, now you know how girls feel about the size of their breasts. Girls with less developed cleavages are often conscious that guys won’t be as attracted to them when compared to their more well-endowed friends. And for some guys, this may be the case. However, there are a whole lot of us guys out there who actually prefer a small or medium-sized chest on a girl. Similarly, there are quite a few girls who would prefer something of average size on a boyfriend instead of having to wrestle an anaconda (move over J-Lo) every time she goes to bed with him.

Now as far as enjoyment for a girl goes, it’s not all about length. There is also another very important dimension called width, or girth. If you’re packing 5 inches of length, but two inches of width, you are definitely going to make your presence felt! However, everything should be in moderation, as too much width can cause pain for some girls. The same can be said about too much length. Girls, like guys, are all built a little bit differently; i.e. some can accommodate more than others. However, if a particularly well-endowed guy is dating a girl who isn’t built to handle it, it can be quite painful, and can even result in injury. So sometimes the extra size can be a curse rather than a blessing.

Also, a woman is stimulated in four main places, the clitoris on the outside (no need for extra size there!), the inner and outer wall (mainly within the first 3 inches), the G-spot (located 2-3 inches inside and up under the pelvic bone – again no need for extra size), and lastly but very importantly, the brain. If you can fill your girlfriend’s mind with passion and excitement, it will naturally flow through the rest of her body. Be romantic or a bit wild depending on what she wants. If your foreplay is good enough, then you can make her a very happy girl with your hands, mouth or any size of appendage. Remember, it isn’t so much about the size as what you do with it.

However, if you are still concerned about increasing your size, I hate to burst your bubble by telling you there isn’t much short of surgery that you can do about it (and I wouldn’t be recommending that to you either!). I’m not sure what these "supplements advertised on the Net" are, but I’m pretty confident that they’re just another scam. Do not, I repeat, do not ever waste any of your hard earned cash on those sorts of things. You would do much better spending that money on a Kama Sutra book showing you which positions give the girl a better feel.

The long and short of all this is that you can learn to make your girlfriend or future wife extremely happy in bed with whatever size you have. The important thing is just to be a very considerate and generous lover. Listen to what she wants and ask her what she likes. Put in the extra effort instead of being selfish and I guarantee she’ll be a lot happier with you than some wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am guy with a baseball bat down his pants. Be happy with what you have and learn how to use it to full effect.

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