Bizarre love triangle?

Dear China, Maimai And Tingting,

There’s this guy who I learned to really love but had confessed to me that he still had feelings for his ex. The other month, he told me he does not love his ex anymore but the way I see it, he continues to keep himself updated with the goings on in her life. What does that mean? Does this mean he is still into his ex? Should I continue to entertain and commit to him? Or should I let go of this guy? Thanks.

Me And His Ex

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t read too much into the relationship, as he seemed to be extremely hung up on his ex. If you continue to show your love for him, yes there’s a possibility that you will get some love in return. However, I doubt it if the feelings will be total until he settles his feelings for his ex. Let him be emotionally stable first before you let him into your life. No one wants to be the third wheel.

China

Yes, let go of this guy, even if you feel you’re already in love with him. It’s not healthy for you to have this feeling for him when you very well know it is not mutual. If you’re asking if you have a chance to nurture a relationship, the answer is yes, there’s a possibility, but don’t hold your breath. While they’re not together anymore, his obsessive behavior is detrimental to your being. Let him come and pursue you when he’s free and ready.

Maimai

If you continue to pursue this guy, he will be bringing in excess baggage into a new relationship and this is not good. I don’t think it is wise for you to even think of going through this relationship. We say that one good turn deserves another, so if you show this boy some love, you might earn his love too. The danger there would be if you earn it on rebound. Therefore, because you love the guy already, I advise you to try to detach yourself from him slowly. You’re now having thoughts about the future of this relationship and this is the best time to make a move. Better now than later, when you’d be more in a pit and when you’ll find it harder to leave.

Tingting

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Boon Or Bane?

Dear China, Maimai And Tingting,

I need help with my research paper. I’d like to ask your opinion/views about my topic, "Internet: Its Influence and Effect on Teenagers." I want to know how influential the Internet is in your own opinion and how to solve this problem.

Truly

The Internet is a very significant tool if used properly. We can gather all sorts of information from different websites. We can increase our knowledge and, in the process, we can develop ourselves. The Internet also keeps me updated on the things that happen around the world – in the world of arts, culture and sports, all of which I am interested in. But yes, there’s also some harm. The Internet is also used by some people for disinformation. There are also some websites that are inappropriate but easily accessible to young people. I don’t really know if there’s a way that we can police the proliferation of these websites but maybe it starts at home. Parents should watch their children more closely.

China

I’ve been using the Internet for a long time and I can’t imagine any other tool that can help me more in developing my ideas if not for the inputs I gather from the Internet and the magazines. Being based in Italy, the Internet also allows me to communicate with my family and friends back home and gives me easy access to news and information back in our country. For me, the benefit the Internet brings outweighs the disadvantages.

Maimai

I have a confession to make... I don’t use the Inernet but I ask the help of my daughter when I need something. I know that there are valuable information on the Internet that I can use specially for my writings, but I just don’t know how to access it by myself. When I do my study in History for instance, there are loads of information on the Net that confirms the research I already made. This strengthens my study. When I do my articles for the newspaper, I get the opinion of other writers on the Internet too. This is why my articles have diverse opinions and are usually informative. I believe teenagers can learn a lot from the Internet only if they discipline themselves and read only the right websites. Otherwise, the Internet can be dangerous and destructive.

Tingting

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