Budding relationship gone pffft?
June 27, 2003 | 12:00am
SISTERS ACT …AND MOM REACTS by Mai Mai & China Cojuangco & by Tingting Cojuangco
Dear Maimai, China and Tingting,
Hi! I have this best bud guy who I like so much. We were just good friends, but as timed passed by, I started to fall for him. Last summer, he asked me out on a date. While watching a movie, he asked me, "Seryoso ka ba...?" I said yes. Then, he kissed me. Am I really in love? I mean, he’s my best bud and I think it’s impossible for us to be together. After one date, though, he stopped calling and texting. No explanations. I’m very hurt. My friends are saying I shouldn’t call him because one kiss doesn’t make a commitment. What should I do? – Confused Heart
I think you should go ahead and find a way to talk to this guy. Although you’re friends may be right that there’s no real commitment, you were – are – still friends with him, aren’t you? As friends, you have the right to find out what happened to him. How can he just stop calling or texting? Talking to him will help you plan your next moves. If he doesn’t feel the same way as you do, I suggest that you stay away and cut your developing feelings in the bud. – China
It isn’t impossible for friends to be boyfriend-girlfriend. But your friends are right, one kiss doesn’t mean you’re on, especially if you’ve not seriously discussed it. You’re hurt because you’ve already invested some time and emotion on this person and you feel that these feelings have not been reciprocated. Talk to him to know where your relationship stands. It takes two to tango. Even if you love him, if he isn’t serious with you, then you are bound to get hurt, so start forgetting him. The sooner you talk to him, the easier for you.
– Maimai
Yes, friends can fall for each other. It has happened many, many times before. I can’t say, however, if this is what happened to you. Only you can answer that question. If you got hurt because he has been ignoring you, then maybe, you’re really in love because you care enough to want to hear from him. The question now is: Is he feeling the same way for you? This, you must resolve by talking to him. There’s nothing like laying all your cards on the table. Tell him how you feel, and allow him to speak his mind. If you’re really friends, then you should be able to gauge if he is honest or not. – Tingting
Dear Maimai, China and Tingting,
I’m an 18-year-old bisexual. I’m very worried about my parents finding out about my sexuality. I don’t think they’ll understand my sexual preference. I don’t want them to get hurt. Do you think they can still accept me for who I am? I’m happy with being bisexual. But I’m sad because I don’t have a confidante to tell things to like this. Please help. Thank you very much and more power. – Closet BI
I have no doubt they will all be surprised and hurt if they know this fact. But this is who you are and, as parents, they will have to learn to accept you as you are. The fact that you choose not to talk to anybody about these things means that you yourself are embarrassed. You must first be comfortable being bi before you can expect others to be more accepting. – China
I have many friends who are homos and they’re very open about it because they’re happy and secure. If you’re really sure you’re bi, you’re happy about your sexual preference and you’re comfortable with your situation, I don’t see why you can’t get yourself to tell your friends about it. I think you’re half-hearted, too. Be sure of yourself first. Being bi is a personal choice. Your parents might be hurt at first, even turn you away at the worst, but eventually, I think they will soften up especially if you prove that you are a good person and can be a productive human being despite your sexual preference. – Maimai
Yes, your parents will get hurt if they get hold of this information so I suggest you try to be discreet about it. Eventually, your parents might be able to understand your sexual preference and accept it. Don’t hold your breath though. Parents feel that they might have been remiss in their duties if any of their children turn out not normal and being bi is not normal. I won’t be surprised if they might also just choose to ignore this fact. Whatever they do, it will take a while before they get over blaming themselves but ultimately, they will come around. – Tingting
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Hi! I have this best bud guy who I like so much. We were just good friends, but as timed passed by, I started to fall for him. Last summer, he asked me out on a date. While watching a movie, he asked me, "Seryoso ka ba...?" I said yes. Then, he kissed me. Am I really in love? I mean, he’s my best bud and I think it’s impossible for us to be together. After one date, though, he stopped calling and texting. No explanations. I’m very hurt. My friends are saying I shouldn’t call him because one kiss doesn’t make a commitment. What should I do? – Confused Heart
I think you should go ahead and find a way to talk to this guy. Although you’re friends may be right that there’s no real commitment, you were – are – still friends with him, aren’t you? As friends, you have the right to find out what happened to him. How can he just stop calling or texting? Talking to him will help you plan your next moves. If he doesn’t feel the same way as you do, I suggest that you stay away and cut your developing feelings in the bud. – China
It isn’t impossible for friends to be boyfriend-girlfriend. But your friends are right, one kiss doesn’t mean you’re on, especially if you’ve not seriously discussed it. You’re hurt because you’ve already invested some time and emotion on this person and you feel that these feelings have not been reciprocated. Talk to him to know where your relationship stands. It takes two to tango. Even if you love him, if he isn’t serious with you, then you are bound to get hurt, so start forgetting him. The sooner you talk to him, the easier for you.
– Maimai
Yes, friends can fall for each other. It has happened many, many times before. I can’t say, however, if this is what happened to you. Only you can answer that question. If you got hurt because he has been ignoring you, then maybe, you’re really in love because you care enough to want to hear from him. The question now is: Is he feeling the same way for you? This, you must resolve by talking to him. There’s nothing like laying all your cards on the table. Tell him how you feel, and allow him to speak his mind. If you’re really friends, then you should be able to gauge if he is honest or not. – Tingting
I’m an 18-year-old bisexual. I’m very worried about my parents finding out about my sexuality. I don’t think they’ll understand my sexual preference. I don’t want them to get hurt. Do you think they can still accept me for who I am? I’m happy with being bisexual. But I’m sad because I don’t have a confidante to tell things to like this. Please help. Thank you very much and more power. – Closet BI
I have no doubt they will all be surprised and hurt if they know this fact. But this is who you are and, as parents, they will have to learn to accept you as you are. The fact that you choose not to talk to anybody about these things means that you yourself are embarrassed. You must first be comfortable being bi before you can expect others to be more accepting. – China
I have many friends who are homos and they’re very open about it because they’re happy and secure. If you’re really sure you’re bi, you’re happy about your sexual preference and you’re comfortable with your situation, I don’t see why you can’t get yourself to tell your friends about it. I think you’re half-hearted, too. Be sure of yourself first. Being bi is a personal choice. Your parents might be hurt at first, even turn you away at the worst, but eventually, I think they will soften up especially if you prove that you are a good person and can be a productive human being despite your sexual preference. – Maimai
Yes, your parents will get hurt if they get hold of this information so I suggest you try to be discreet about it. Eventually, your parents might be able to understand your sexual preference and accept it. Don’t hold your breath though. Parents feel that they might have been remiss in their duties if any of their children turn out not normal and being bi is not normal. I won’t be surprised if they might also just choose to ignore this fact. Whatever they do, it will take a while before they get over blaming themselves but ultimately, they will come around. – Tingting
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