What would you do if you discovered your partner was gay?

When one is in love, we tend to overlook things and are more forgiving of our partner’s flaws. Most of the time we close our eyes and ears at the advice of family members and well-meaning friends. But there comes a point when one is finally faced with reality and accepts facts. Read on and find out what our interviewees would do.

Geneva Cruz, singer

I’d probably kick myself for not picking up on the hints. There’s no point holding on to the relationship if I cannot make him happy, so I should just let him go. I think that’s the right thing to do.

Paloma, actress

I would really be shocked! I would wonder if there was something I did wrong that warranted his conversion. But if he’s decided to follow this path, I’d let him go. I’ll even introduce him to men.

David Semerad, basketball player, Ateneo Blue Eagles

I would be very shocked and disappointed. But I would still try to work things out with her. If not, I’ll just have to move on.

Patrick Garcia, actor

I wouldn’t drop her just because she’s lesbian. I can say I’ll try to work it out with her but she should also be willing to do that too. It’s a two-way street. But if I’m not the man who could make her happy, then I guess I’ll just have to give her freedom.

Victoria London, actress/TV host/ law student

If I found out my boyfriend or spouse was gay, it would really depend on the circumstances of whether or not they knew they were gay before committing to me. If they did not know it would obviously be a very difficult and confusing time for them so I would offer all my love and support and still try to remain friends. However, if the circumstances were different and my partner was aware that he was gay and became committed to me (for whatever reason) I would be upset as I would obviously feel that he was a dishonest person with little integrity. The chance to salvage a friendship with that person would be less likely.

Norman Crisologo, collector

If i found out my girlfriend was gay I would: 1) Jump for joy; 2) Establish relationship rules like no fuglies allowed, age limit (no gal more mature, experienced, or manly than me), full disclosure (every last detail), audience participation please, and if geographically impossible, video documentation, no toys bigger, stronger, faster than me; 3) Veto powers; 4) Give thanks for my blessings.   

Rina Reyes, marketing specialist

If he’s my spouse I would try to exhaust all the possible solutions to save the marriage. If he is just a boyfriend, 50-50 if I will give myself the headache to save the relationship and accept the fact that he is gay and understand that it has nothing to do with me. If all else fails, I will humor the situation and make him a “girlfriend.” That would be fun, I’d have someone to go to the salon with and we could have our nails done together.

Atty. Inky Reyes

I would have a heart-to-heart talk with her, gently rebuke her, point out to her why gay practices are wrong according to the Bible, ask her to repent and ask the Lord’s forgiveness, and pray over her. Then I’d ask her to seek spiritual counseling.

Lala Sotto, former councilor

If I found out that my husband or boyfriend was gay, I would definitely leave him in a heartbeat — the minute it is proven! Then I would pick myself back up, move forward and surrender to God’s will in my life. Knowing that my God has plans for me, plans to prosper me and not to harm me.

Lizza G. Nakpil, Wolfgang manager

I’m not of the school of thought that same-sex cheating is not cheating at all. It is! I would do the same as for any form of betrayal — bash his head in.