Chesca, Doug Kramer put off plan for another baby due to emotional distress of IVF
MANILA, Philippines — Actress Chesca Garcia-Kramer revealed that she and husband Doug Kramer put off their plans to have another baby because of the emotional distress brought about by the In vitro fertilization (IVF) process.
In a recent episode of ABS-CBN's "Magandang Buhay" morning talk show, Chesca revealed that it’s very hard for women who chose the IVF process because of expectation.
"Of course, I think, for me more, 'di ba? Because ako 'yung nagke-carry, e. Because in your mind, actually, when they put already the embryo, you are already pregnant. Basically, you're just waiting for it to grow and become a baby talaga,” Chesca said.
"So I think it's very hard for women who are doing IVF and expecting because you have a two-week wait window. Du'n sa two weeks na 'yun, you're hoping that your period will not come. 'Pag dumating siya, ibig sabihin fail siya," she explained.
Chesca shared her last try of IVF made her expect but to no avail.
"So my last one, my third one, I was really hoping and I was praying because I actually missed my period. But then, when I had my... when I did the pregnancy test, I was not pregnant. But I already know the gender of my baby and everything,” she said.
"So it's a very hard journey for anyone who's doing IVF simply because may wait period, pag nag-fail siya, may invested emotions ka kasi," she added.
The actress also said that her family is also affected because of the failed IVF cycle.
"They're also going through something, e. They're also going through something, 'yung expecting, 'yung excitement and everything. So, 'di ba, especially my last one, my son, si Gavin. He didn't want to hug and hold me. Because he said, 'I thought I'm gonna be a kuya na',” she recalled.
"And I said, 'Gavin, I also want to be pregnant. Mommy also wants to be pregnant but it's not for me to tell. 'And, you know, let's just take this as a way to thank the Lord that He probably is protecting mama also.' Tapos hinug niya ako, sabi niya, 'Sorry, mommy. I was just really hoping to be a kuya'," she added.
The celebrity couple, however, still hopes that they will be blessed with another baby soon.
"It's something that I'm really praying for. Actually, the last failed one, talagang sinabi ko, 'Lord, if you don't want us to have a baby anymore, please remove the longing and the wanting to have a baby.' Because I also want to be obedient to the Lord. Sometimes, things don't go as planned because He has a good reason for it,” she said.
"And I also want to be an obedient daughter and follower, 'di ba? So, but still, I have that longing but for now, I'm setting it aside."
