Be confident!
April 18, 2004 | 12:00am
Confidence. Where does it come from? It comes from the knowledge that within you lies a great amount of power and love to create all that you need in life.
Our problem is that sometimes we forget we have confidence in us. That’s why I’d like to share with you some thoughts from Susan Jeffers’ The Little Book of Confidence. These thoughts can serve as constant reminders, allowing our confidence to grow, especially when we are facing new situations.
The author first differentiates between the "higher self" and the "lower self."
The "higher self" inside you is a place filled with joy, creativity, intuition, peace, power, love and all good things. Whenever in this place, your confidence soars and all seems right with the world.
The "lower self" is the place filled with self-doubt, fear, anger, helplessness, scarcity and all the negative things. Whenever in this place, your confidence disappears and all seems wrong with the world.
So how can you have confidence? Here are some ways:
• Affirmations. An affirmation is a strong positive statement telling you that "All is well." With constant repetition, affirmations help you drown out the negative messages. Confidence is thus restored.
Affirmations work. Whether we believe the words or not, just saying, "Thinking or writing positive thoughts make us stronger in every way, body, mind and spirit." Saying this calms and heals the scared child within.
• Allow good to come in. As you become more powerful and loving, you draw healthier people into your life. Like attracts like. The more positive you are, the greater the positive energy you draw into your life.
• Let go of outcomes. It may happen or it may not. There is nothing wrong with creating clear, detailed pictures of how you want your life to be, but it is essential to add one vital "higher self" element to your visualization, and that is, let go of the outcome!
If whatever you visualize happens, so be it. If it doesn’t happen, so be it. You will handle it all in a powerful loving way. When you are able to think in this "higher self" way, you have discovered the meaning of freedom in the highest sense.
• Say "yes" to life. Choose your reactions to it all. Whatever cards life may deal you, however bad things may seem, you can choose how you react. No one can ever take away your reaction to your experiences in life.
"Yes" is the magic word. Right now, nod your head up and down and softly say, "Yes" which is more than just a word. It is the essence of "higher self" thinking. It says, "No matter what happens in my life, I’ll make some thing wonderful out of it."
Saying "Yes" is not about denial. Seeing life in a positive, life-affirming way is not to deny negative feelings such as fear and pain. Bad times are unavoidable part of life. To acknowledge our pain is very important to a healthy life.
Saying "Yes" gives meaning to life. Saying "Yes" to life’s challenges creates a deeper meaning and purpose in your life. It allows you to understand the pain and fear others feel and creates a connection to everyone around you. Your compassion grows.
• Make no-lose decisions. "I can’t lose" regardless of the outcome of the decisions I make. I look forward to the opportunities for learning a growing that either choice gives me. Any road I take is strewn with riches for my highest good.
• Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Don’t worry that the "wrong" decision will deprive you of something – money, friends, status, lovers or whatever the "right" decision is supposed to bring you. Remember, if you learn through your mistakes, there are no mistakes!
• Accept responsibility for your decision. Do not blame others if things do not work out to your liking. Blame is a powerless act. If you see all your decisions as right decisions, it will much easier to take responsibility for them!
• Know when to change course. Commit yourself to any decision you make, but if you see it isn’t right for you, then change course. The trick in life is not to worry about making a wrong decision, it’s knowing when to correct.
These are just some of this book’s most empowering thoughts. I will give you more in my next articles.
I hope you can use some of the ways mentioned above to gain confidence. They can carry you whenever you go. Remember that confidence is something that is within you.
Embrace life with courage, trust, fulfillment and joy!
(E-mail me at babyjackster@hotmail.com)
Our problem is that sometimes we forget we have confidence in us. That’s why I’d like to share with you some thoughts from Susan Jeffers’ The Little Book of Confidence. These thoughts can serve as constant reminders, allowing our confidence to grow, especially when we are facing new situations.
The author first differentiates between the "higher self" and the "lower self."
The "higher self" inside you is a place filled with joy, creativity, intuition, peace, power, love and all good things. Whenever in this place, your confidence soars and all seems right with the world.
The "lower self" is the place filled with self-doubt, fear, anger, helplessness, scarcity and all the negative things. Whenever in this place, your confidence disappears and all seems wrong with the world.
So how can you have confidence? Here are some ways:
• Affirmations. An affirmation is a strong positive statement telling you that "All is well." With constant repetition, affirmations help you drown out the negative messages. Confidence is thus restored.
Affirmations work. Whether we believe the words or not, just saying, "Thinking or writing positive thoughts make us stronger in every way, body, mind and spirit." Saying this calms and heals the scared child within.
• Allow good to come in. As you become more powerful and loving, you draw healthier people into your life. Like attracts like. The more positive you are, the greater the positive energy you draw into your life.
• Let go of outcomes. It may happen or it may not. There is nothing wrong with creating clear, detailed pictures of how you want your life to be, but it is essential to add one vital "higher self" element to your visualization, and that is, let go of the outcome!
If whatever you visualize happens, so be it. If it doesn’t happen, so be it. You will handle it all in a powerful loving way. When you are able to think in this "higher self" way, you have discovered the meaning of freedom in the highest sense.
• Say "yes" to life. Choose your reactions to it all. Whatever cards life may deal you, however bad things may seem, you can choose how you react. No one can ever take away your reaction to your experiences in life.
"Yes" is the magic word. Right now, nod your head up and down and softly say, "Yes" which is more than just a word. It is the essence of "higher self" thinking. It says, "No matter what happens in my life, I’ll make some thing wonderful out of it."
Saying "Yes" is not about denial. Seeing life in a positive, life-affirming way is not to deny negative feelings such as fear and pain. Bad times are unavoidable part of life. To acknowledge our pain is very important to a healthy life.
Saying "Yes" gives meaning to life. Saying "Yes" to life’s challenges creates a deeper meaning and purpose in your life. It allows you to understand the pain and fear others feel and creates a connection to everyone around you. Your compassion grows.
• Make no-lose decisions. "I can’t lose" regardless of the outcome of the decisions I make. I look forward to the opportunities for learning a growing that either choice gives me. Any road I take is strewn with riches for my highest good.
• Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Don’t worry that the "wrong" decision will deprive you of something – money, friends, status, lovers or whatever the "right" decision is supposed to bring you. Remember, if you learn through your mistakes, there are no mistakes!
• Accept responsibility for your decision. Do not blame others if things do not work out to your liking. Blame is a powerless act. If you see all your decisions as right decisions, it will much easier to take responsibility for them!
• Know when to change course. Commit yourself to any decision you make, but if you see it isn’t right for you, then change course. The trick in life is not to worry about making a wrong decision, it’s knowing when to correct.
These are just some of this book’s most empowering thoughts. I will give you more in my next articles.
I hope you can use some of the ways mentioned above to gain confidence. They can carry you whenever you go. Remember that confidence is something that is within you.
Embrace life with courage, trust, fulfillment and joy!
(E-mail me at babyjackster@hotmail.com)
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