How to make the season more meaningful

I just got a very meaningful gift from DILG Sec. Mar Roxas and his wife Korina Sanchez, consisting of a booklet called Keep Calm and Carry On: 365 Quotes, Slogans and Mottos for 2014, a porcelain tray (of wise sayings) with a quotation from Winston Churchill (Meet Success like a gentleman; disaster like a man) and “25 Ways to Add Meaning to the Holidays” by Ken Wert, so helpful that I can’t help sharing them with Funfare readers. Even if you must have read them somewhere, I guess you will love reading them again.

Here they are:

Research the history of the occasion and share what you learn with friends and family.

Use the day to connect with people you are about. Get together. Strengthen bonds. Laugh. Talk. Love.

Give a creative gift from the heart (something homemade) instead of busting your budget or depleting your life savings, or having to sell a kidney for money. My favorite was a financially tight Christmas years ago when we all made Christmas ornaments for each other as gift. We still use them today!

Instead of giving gifts (except, perhaps for the younger kids), use the money you would have spent on each other and donate to a good cause. But make this a family decision — no dictatorial proclamations, or you may be adding a very different kind of meaning to this holiday that the one intended!

Volunteer at a homeless shelter or food bank.

Create a stocking full of treats and gifts and place it (them) on a doorstep of someone you know has lost their job or has no family.

Deliver a food basket to a homeless person.

Talk to others about what is most meaningful about the holiday. Simply having this kind of conversation will underscore its significance for you.

Write a letter telling someone you love (or someone you need to forgive or who you’ve offended) how much you care for them and appreciate them as you wish them a Merry Christmas.

Make doing a good deed every day from this reading to the end of the year an annual part of your Christmas tradition.

Go to church/synagogue/temple as part of your celebration.

12.  Find an inspirational movie about the holiday and watch it with family and friends. Our favorite is the Frank Capra classic It’s a Wonderful Life with Jimmy Stewart.

Sit down with your family and establish some new traditions that will build meaning into the season and into the future. One of ours is to deliver cookies to neighbors and friends on Christmas Eve, then sit down and watch It’s a Wonderful Life.

Deliver cookies to neighbors, family and friends.

Go Christmas caroling at the ward for burn victims.

Visit a shelter for abused kids to read books or play games with them.

Read How the Grinch Stole Christmas or Christmas Carol or Little Women or any other favorite work that touches on deeper elements of the holiday.

Read the Christmas story in the Bible to see how it all got started.

Learn some of the symbolism of the Christmas tree, the candy cane and the stockings.

Have each of the kids choose one of their gifts to take to a poor family who won’t otherwise have much of a Christmas.

Set up a hot cocoa stand near a freeway overpass or anywhere else homeless people congregate in your town and give hot cocoa out for free. Or set it up in the parking lot of a local shopping center or mall; just to be kind.

Visit your grandparents (or a convalescent home) and ask them to tell you stories about Christmas when they were children.

Put up your lights this year — it’s an altruistic gift to others who see the lights and are better able to get into the mood and spirit of the holiday.

Call the holiday by name. Refuse to use meaning-sapping words like winter-break and holiday tree, or to wish people “Happy Holidays!” Wish them a “Merry Christmas” or “Happy Hanukkah.” Only silly people will object and they need to get over their silliness anyway! Lovingly help them.

Give the gift of living better, kinder, more honest, more committed to your family, gentler, with more courage and compassion and love and forgiveness, more faithful and hopeful and positive and thoughtful as you finish the year and begin a new one.

And let that be the ultimate gift and the ultimate meaning you attach to this wonderful, sacred, joyful time of the year.

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Israeli-born Hollywood actress Gal Gadot, 28, has been tapped to play the role of Wonder Woman in Warner Bros.’ still untitled superhero team-up film of Henry Cavill as Superman and Ben Affleck as Batman, a sequel to Man of Steel, with a planned play date on July 17, 2015. Lynda Carter was the original Wonder Woman in the TV adaptation of the DC Comics serial.   

Gadot was 2004 Miss Israel who competed that same year in the Miss Universe pageant in Ecuador, a batchmate of Bb. Pilipinas-Universe Maricar Balagtas. That’s what she has in common with Carter who was Miss Arizona in 1972 and 1972 Miss World USA who finished one of the 15 semi-finalists along with the Philippine bet Eva Reyes in the Miss World pageant in London. Gadot has served the Israel Defense Forces as a sports trainer for two years.

A close friend of the late Paul Walker, Gadot is best remembered as Gisele Harabo in Fast & Furious (2009), Fast Five (2011) and Fast & Furious 6 (2013). Upon learning about the offer, Gadot tweeted: â€œWonder Woman! So exciting! Can’t express how happy I am!” Within hours of the announcement, Carter tweeted, “Congratulations to Gal Gadot!”  

— Reported by Celso de Guzman Caparas

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