Lies we tell ourselves
The biggest lies we tell ourselves:
1.) If everyone would be a member of MY political party, everything would be perfect.
2.) If everyone was a member of MY religion, the world would be perfect.
3.) If everyone would do what I want as far as love relationships, everything would be perfect. (i.e. gender choices, religious choices, preferred ages, nationality differences, skin color, etc.)
Examples of common self-deceptions:
1.) That you can't achieve a goal ("I can't do it")
2.) The belief that happiness is based on a future event or possession. ("If I could just have that, then my life would be amazing.”)?
3.) That a problem will disappear on its own. ("If I ignore it, it will go away").
Other common lies we tell ourselves are:
1.) "I have to be perfect."
2.) "What will people think?" This can stop a person from fully actualizing their potential success and personal happiness. Is everyone really judging you? Or just a few out of 8 billion? Ask yourself: Is it YOUR life, or THEIR life?
3.) "My self-worth is determined by my work." (The truth is you have worth regardless if you have great skills or not.)
We also have self-deceptions. These are the lies that limit your potential. They might prevent you from trying things which you are capable of doing.
1.) "I'll start tomorrow."
2.) "I don't have a choice." The feeling that you are powerless to change your circumstances. You always have a choice in your attitude and response.
3.) “If I had more time, I would do it.” ?
Which of the lies above do you say to yourself most often? What lies are missing from the list?
How to fight back:
1.) Read about "positive affirmations." Example: "Every day in every way I'm getting better and better!" ( Say this 20 times a day.)
2.) Stop waiting for the perfect moment.
Start with what you have now and make progress. Don't get lost trying to be perfect. Just keep moving forward on your goals.
Richard Baker
Dumaguete City
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