Is a reunion possible? Ruffa Gutierrez confirms regular communication with ex Yilmaz Bektas
Ruffa Gutierrez addressed the possibility of getting back with her former husband, Turkish businessman Yilmaz Bektas, given that their once-complicated relationship appeared to be better than ever.
To recall, Ruffa and Yilmaz wed in the Philippines in March 2003, separated in 2007 and got annulled in 2012. It’s public knowledge what led to the breakdown of their marriage.
But the current state of their relationship has reached the level wherein they now have open and regular communication. This can be attributed to her daughters Venice and Lorin's emotional reunion with their dad in Istanbul in 2022 or about 15 years since they last saw each other.
“It's been two years since they reconnected with their father and I'm very happy that they are more at ease, you know. Parang yung pain na nakita ko na nasa heart nila for how many years nawala. And I'm just so happy for my daughters because they now have a personal relationship with their dad,” the actress and former beauty queen shared in an intimate media interview.
She continued, “Kami rin ni Yilmaz, okay din kami. Minsan nagbibiruan kami and nagpapadala na rin siya ng (financial support).”
Ruffa didn't go into detail but stressed“ang importante nagbibigay na.”
“So imagine, may allowance sila from me, from my mom (Annabelle Rama) and her dad,” she said of her daughters who are completing their college degrees — Marketing for Lorin and Political Science for Venice — in the US.
“So, happy kami lahat… Oo, regular ang communication.”
Marriage proposal again from Yilmaz?
When asked why Yilmaz calls her “boss” on social media, Ruffa quipped, “Kasi ‘di siya makakahanap ng isang katulad ko, hanap siya ng hanap sa buong mundo, and as a matter of fact, he wanted to propose and get married to me again, and I thought it was a joke.”
She further shared that her ex, who never remarried since they separated, had even invited her recently to an overseas trip.
“Gusto niya akong yayain mag-train… mga three months ago lang… Sabi ko, ‘Is this a joke?’ ‘No, I want to take you with me’ and mag-train daw kami all over Europe. Totoo ba ‘to?” she said, declining the offer.
She further recalled his response, “Sinabi niya, I will just visit you nalang there. So okay, you're welcome to visit… This year daw (he will visit).”
But Ruffa was quick to clarify: “I don't say that he's courting me again. At least, we've come to that decision that at this time in our lives, we can joke and be happy with one another.”
Now, with Yilmaz back in her daughters’ lives, she was asked whether she's open to a romantic reunion between herself and her ex.
“Matagal ko na siyang hindi nakikita eh. The last time I saw him, I don't know, 18 years ago?” she answered.
“Walang (what if kami pa rin), wala naman. I always wish him well and I always wish that he becomes successful in life because his success is also the success of my kids. Ano lang kami, parang, we're best friends now.”
As for what her kids think of their parents’ present dynamics, she noted, “Happy na happy sila. Pero kunwari naiinis ako sa kanya, sinusumbong ko sa mga bata.”
“And then natatawa lang sila. Your dad, I think, he still likes me, why is he sending me these messages? Siya yung flirt, hindi ako yung flirty at 50,” she added, referring to a playful question if she believes in being “50 and flirty.”
Her kids don't also tease them together but they do encourage communication.
“Mommy, just talk to him,” she shared what they would tell her.
“I just talked to him the other day. Sabi niya, ‘I miss my daughters so much it hurts.’ (I said) well, buy a ticket and come here, ganun… But don't come here kung wala sila,” she quipped.
Despite their challenging past, Ruffa is grateful for how their relationship has since evolved.
“Yeah, it makes me happy. Yeah, we had many tough years, but I think now, as we’re older, we’re more mature. And baka ganyan talaga hindi kami pwedeng magsama sa i-isang bahay. Hindi na kami yung magkatuluyan.”
When asked if there's anyone who might “feel threatened” by her improved relationship with her Yilmaz, she said, “Walang na-threaten sa side ko kasi confident din, grabe (laughs)!”
‘50 and flirty’
The STAR and a few other press outlets spoke to the actress on the sidelines of her recent launch as the newest celebrity ambassador of Luxe Slim and Luxe Slim Glowtion.
“Thank you for the trust, Miss A, Anna Magkawas,” she thanked the CEO and founder of Luxe Beauty and Wellness Group on social media. “Together, let’s champion a lifestyle that celebrates health, confidence and timeless beauty. Here’s to glowing transformations and feeling confident at any age.”
Ruffa is proud of her age. She believes that 50 is the new 40 or 30 even, although she admitted that she's doubling her efforts to take care of herself — physically, mentally and emotionally.
But back to the playful question of whether she believes in being “50 and still flirty.”
“What I mean about flirting is you can be 50 and flirting if may partner ka. I think, you should continue to flirt with each other — in general yan — because you know, going through life, I mean, minsan parang routine na eh, hindi na kayo nag-fi-flirt sa isa't isa,” she said.
“So para sa akin, para maging healthy relationship n’yo, you still flirt with each other, date one another,” she said.
“And if you're single, or a single mom, then you should flirt with yourself, (have a) date with yourself, take care of yourself and practice self-love.”
And in which “category” does Ruffa place herself?
She replied with a laugh, “I flirt with my jowa and I flirt with myself.”
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