CEBU, Philippines - A bridal shower is a practical and attractive way to help a bride set up housekeeping. Guests can give utilitarian things such as kitchen supplies, linens, cooking equipment and bath accessories to form a little nest egg of needed items with which to start off her new life. It is typically an informal affair and the objective is to socialize, enjoy refreshments and watch the bride open gifts. Often there are activities or games. These fun parties can be "ladies only" or co-ed events. Bridesmaids might co-host, or a group of close friends or even work colleagues might take on the responsibility.
Although it is lovely to send a printed invitation to a wedding shower, if it is a very small or very casual party, it is acceptable to invite guests by phone or even email. From an etiquette standpoint, there are really only a few things to remember about a shower.
. The bride is usually consulted before the shower about what she really needs so that the gifts are appropriate.
. The host must provide
refreshments.
. The bride must open all her gifts at the party.
. Registry information shall not be put out on the shower invitation. If it's a themed shower, say bath, kitchen, linen or lingerie, it is okay to note color preference or sizes; if the host wishes, she can include a separate note with the invitation specifying the bridal registry.
. Everyone who is invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding.
. A thank-you note is required , even if thanks were expressed personally to the shower giver during the party, as well as for gifts from people who didn't attend the shower.
. If bride is to receive things to wear, exact sizes should be ascertained.
Celebration Do's and Don'ts
Do
. Even though you are busy with work and planning a wedding, take the time to enjoy these special parties with your close friends and families as these are the moments you will treasure.
. Express your wishes regarding the size of each of your parties, special people you would like to include and any important details about things you really want, but do so politely and with consideration.
. Be a considerate honoree. Remember to thank the host of any and every special event with a personal note and a small gift of thanks.
Don't
. Do not take over the planning of your celebration. Let yourself be surprised and delighted by what your loved ones come up with for you.
. Don't make demands. If you have a request or an important priority, just let the hosts know politely and discreetly.
. Don't invite people yourself. If there is someone you want to include, ask the hostess if it is possible and provide contact information.
Pre-wedding parties and showers can be gay and exciting, and certainly express the joy and happiness surrounding the upcoming event. However, if there are too many parties preceding the wedding, or parties are closely scheduled, it can be exhausting to everyone concerned. If many people suggest parties, the wise bride may urge them to join forces. A sensible program of entertaining can make this time memorable for all. (FREEMAN)