I am a 15-year-old girl and I have a brother who is 13 years old. Our mother died last June and I can see that my father is having a hard time taking care of us. He is always quiet so we know he is sad. The other night, I heard him talking to his friend and he said he had many debts. What can I do to help him?
Worried Daughter
How about showing him you love him? Hug him more often. Talk to him about small things like how your day went. Create small talk just to divert his attention from the problems. Ask your brother to do the same and let it be a concerted effort in helping your father with your loss. It must be difficult for all of you, him especially, so it’s not a bad idea to help each other get past it.
China
I think it’s time for a reversal of roles. Your father needs someone to take care of him now especially because he has to worry and fix other important things. He has lost a partner and while you’re not expected to fill-in, it might be a good gesture if you see to it that your father eats on time or has proper clothes to wear. Give him some space to mourn and adjust but be sure he understands that you’re there if ever he will need you to do something for him.
Mai-Mai
There’s really nothing much you can do but be a good daughter. Try not to give him any other problems and worries because he seems to have many to think about. Try to get good grades, don’t spend money senselessly, and help him take care of your younger brother. It’s the little things you do that would show him you are trying to help out. Your father is still in his period of mourning so it is important that you also be supportive and loving. I’m sorry you lost your mother at this young age. But remember, things happen for a reason.
Tingting