Romance is when the mind becomes intentionally dull and submits to the whims and dictates of the heart. It is when the heart reigns supreme and does the seeing because the eyes choose to be temporarily blind. When suddenly everything becomes pregnant with meaning and nothing needs explanation. When life seems blissfully perfect and inspired. And most of all, romance is when flickering desire turns into fiery lust – a passionate physical longing, an erotic thirst that desperately needs to be quenched. Romance is when, magically, two people become one.
Romance makes for the intoxicating verses poets write, blissful songs and symphonies composers create, fantasy escapades lovers relate. It is an elopement by ladder and rope on a moonlit night. Music and violins only two hearts can hear. An evening in Paris, a weekend on a secret island getaway. A soft, smooth ear. Luscious, swollen lips wet with love’s delicious nectar. Delirious eyes gloriously transfixed in divine drunkenness. Romance is touching, kissing, caressing, embracing, wanting, needing, craving, loving, giving, submitting, owning.
1. Be noticed. Be healthy and physically desirable. Look and feel good. Enhance your physical attributes – clear up your complexion, have sparkling teeth and fresh breath, get a get haircut and trim unwanted hair, have clean and well-cut nails. Dress to impress. Carry your clothes with panache, and smell wonderful to be near. And smile sexy!
2. Have self-confidence. Believe in yourself. Feel good about yourself. Stand erect and walk tall. Don’t be shy. Practice eye contact. Project your very best self. Develop a positive self-image. Increase your self-esteem and self-respect.
3. Learn. Learn. Learn. Knowledge is power. The more you know, the more you’ll grow; and the more you learn, the more you’ll earn. The best crown you can ever wear is a brilliant mind!
4. Develop your communication skills. Improve your speech. Develop a pleasant, persuasive and alluring voice. Polish your diction and minimize unwanted accents. Be aware of your non-verbal communication – your body language, deportment, manners and social graces.
5. Learn how to flirt. Flirting is the fine art of initial seduction. Cast those intriguing "come and get me" glances. Be ready with a great opening line. Modulate your voice to make it resonant and sexy. Tease and bare a little flesh. Have those "innocent" sexy come-ons. Know when to touch at the right moment.
6. Have a great sense of humor. Spice up every encounter with fun, wit and humor. Laughter makes Mr./Ms. Attractive relax and loosen up. Look at the bright side of things, even if the waiter has spilled a drink on you. You can always say, "Where shall I dry my shirt? My place or yours?"
7. Learn how to listen. Proper listening is part of good etiquette. Pay attention to what your love interest is saying. Give him/her due importance – don’t monopolize the conversation. Ask questions about him/her. Notice his/her non-verbal communication and body language. A "No" may be a "Yes!"
8. Learn how to be a love machine. Be a hot tiger or tigress! Learn how to touch and caress. Be a great kisser and know how to make steamy love. Foreplay is very important; know what to say during the love act. Realize that making love does not end after your climax.
9. Be aware that little things mean a lot. With little things, you can show how much you care. Plan your date. The music, the restaurant, the food and ambience should all contribute to a magically romantic, unforgettable evening. A little call or text could make his/her day.
10. Give to receive. What you give determines what you receive. Choose witty and meaningful gifts. Sometimes the simplest of gifts has the maximum impact. It is more dramatic to give a girl one perfect rose than twelve near-wilted ones. Especially when you add a little note that says, "You are one in a million!"
11. Check out your compatibility. Are you compatible with your loved one mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually? Try your best to be in harmony. Check out his/her family background and be ready for some not so pleasant surprises you might uncover later on.
12. Get your toys ready. Ready your power love toys. Your car, your condo, roses, chocolates, champagne, aromatic candles, etc. – all of these can be very, very sexy. And prepare your most valuable sexy weapon – le mighty credit card!
1. Love yourself first. You cannot give away that which you don’t have.
2. Be right for yourself. How can you be right for someone else if you are not right for yourself?
3. Be physically appealing. Be attractive and look delicious enough to bite.
4. Make room for your loved one to move in. Forget your old flame. Visualize someone new and exciting coming into your life.
5. Be successful and rich. Make your impossible dreams come true and earn lots of glorious money!
6. Be adventurous. Be open to new experiences and go out to meet new people.
7. Keep searching. Remember that love comes from the most unexpected places!
On this month of hearts, I wish you more than love. I wish for you irresistible pheromones for a dazzlingly magnificent romance!