Dear Eppy,
I read the concerns of Restless Soul you published in The Philippine STAR on Nov. 17, 2015 with intense interest. Obviously, there are many reasons when a healthy woman loses interest in sex with her husband but from the information that Restless Soul shared, the most likely health problem his wife has is hormonal imbalance. Her situation is easily corrected and she doesn’t have to indulge in synthetic hormones as these are fraught with serious side effects like heart attack, stroke, breast and cervical cancers.
There is a very safe preparation that is an alternative to dangerous synthetic hormones, and they’re plant-based, very effective, and with no side effects. They are called bio-identical hormones that have been used widely in the United States and Europe for many decades now. Luckily, they are now available in the Philippines also. These could be the answer to his wife’s issues.
Cris Enriquez, MD
Dear Dr. Cris Enriquez,
Allow me to summarize the article you refer to, so my readers will know where you and I are coming from. The wife you refer to started becoming unresponsive to her husband and blocked every move of her husband to be closer to her. In time, the husband learned to be self-reliant in taking care of his needs and the needs of his son, who is autistic. The teacher of his son had to regularly communicate with the husband because the wife didn’t want to be doing the chore of making their son’s school progress her business. The teacher and the father became close, causing the father of the boy to have intense feelings towards the teacher and now, he doesn’t know what to do about his situation.
Dr. Cris, I’d like to thank you for your letter. I have been receiving letters judging both the wife and the husband. One woman says the husband deserves being deserted by the wife and another says the wife just wants some other man.
Your letter has given an alternate view of what is happening. It focuses on the possibility that hormonal problems or a dysfunctional body that causes an imbalance in the chemicals in our body can actually make us do things that we might not want to do if the chemicals in our body were all produced in the right amounts.
This tells us then that there are times when people do things that are inappropriate not because they are bad people but because no matter how much they try to do what’s right, it would be impossible, if not difficult.
Your letter didn’t give more details, which could have been helpful for my readers. However, readers may go to their respective health professionals and ask about bio-identical hormones.
I’d like to take this opportunity and address the issue of the husband falling in love with the teacher. Usually, in a marriage, a circumstance or event can cause a problem in the relationship between husband and wife. This goes unnoticed. Later on, hostile feelings become part of the experiences of both parties.
Unaware, both spouses now respond to the other in a hostile manner. In time, both people resent the other. When not addressed, the relationship will end soon enough. However, if people are able to identity the reason and situation that made them feel ill towards one another, then they can forgive each other and continue to nurture their relationship in a more peaceful manner. Going to a therapist will help uncover these feelings and address them immediately.
Eppy
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