It's just happened

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Hello Inday Misyel. Hi! how’s life? by the way, I just read the newspaper recently and saw your column. I did try read it and was enlightened by your advices to your readers with a bit of humor. I also have some love problems and need what’s your stand if you’re on my shoes.

I met this guy 2years ago and then we became a couple (boyfriend/girlfriend relationship). We broke up after 6 months, he reasoned out that he had fallen out of love. I accept his reason and let him go, after 8 months he called up again because he wanted to talk. I accepted his invitation of seeing him not knowing that he wanted to court me and ask for another chance I said yes. I don’t know if I’d done the right thing without thinking twice for only I know that I still have the feelings I know I still love him. 9 months passed I’ve seen the changes in him he has been the sweetest guy and it came to a point where we talked about getting married soon. He tell his mother that I will be the girl he want to be his wife and I also told my mother about our plan. All of a sudden he broke up with me again it really surprise me and the first thing that questioned me is “oh my God how about our wedding?” He said “it will not happen anymore I don’t know the reason why? I ask myself what’s happening in me all I know is that I don’t love you.” I could’nt say a word, i just cried, there a lot of things I wanted to say him but I don’t have the courage to do I just cried in my room every night and been asking myself what’s wrong with me.

I’m focusing my mind on my work but I can’t hide my tears sometimes I wanted to moved on but still there’s a hope in me, what should I do?

Pls help,

Bride

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Daghan salamat sa imong letter and I appreciate all the contents of it. Mabuhay ka para sa akong column. Hope I can add values para nakatabang sa imong problema.

Yes! Tinuod na bisan imo pang gi-focus ang tanan sa imong work para malimtan lang og maka-recover ka sa nahitabo sa imong love life. Dili nimo malimtan og dili ka move-on pa. Dunay uban dugay maka-recover because the same reason naa gihapon sa ilang hunahuna ang panghitabo. Naa gihapon ang tanan magsige’g samok. You need to understand the situation sabton nimo ang tanan mga panghitabo kung nganong dili kamo ang nagkadayon. Sabton nimo nga i-responsable og walay baruganan ang maong lalaki. Sabta nga dili gipanag-iya ang butang bisan imo pa kining gimahal og importante. Tanan mahanaw kay wala gitugot nga ikaw mapunta sa lalaking wala magmahal sa imo sa tinuod. Wa mihatag og value sa tanan nimong gipakita sa iya. Sabta nga kung magpadayon ka sa iya wala kay maayong future og masakitan ka lang. Sabton nimo nga tama na ang nangagi ninyong duha kay tanang butang ug relasyon lumalabay ra ang tanan. Sabton nimo nga ang imong gibati niya dili ang nagdala sa imong pagkatawo kundi ang imong kaugalingon ra. Ikaduha, ACCEPTANCE the fact nga kining tanan maagian nato sakit man ang nahitabo but we learned and we became stronger. Kung imong madawat   kining tanan maka move-on ka. But the most weapon to recover is to talk to GOD. Pray to HIM. Tanan makaagi og sakit nga atong hilakan og kalibgan nga gipakalitan lang ta sa panahon. Why? Para dili nato malimtan si GOD. Buot pasabot siya ang mag-handle unya human sa atong pag-antos. Ihatag ang imong kasingkasing niya para iya nga limpyohan. OK!

Inday Misyel