It’s Saturday, feel-good Saturday, and as usual it’s time for another heart-warming and soul-enriching story to make us, that’s it, “feel good” in these uncertain times when the much-awaited light at the end of the tunnel is taking time to reveal itself.
Today’s story was forwarded to Funfare by my good friend and fellow bookworm Robin Tong who sourced it from the man you are about to (virtually) meet. I bet we all know and love to sing The Sound of Silence, the Simon & Garfunkel multi-awarded hit song used as soundtrack to the 1967 movie The Graduate that launched Dustin Hoffman to stardom.
But to one man, that song means much more than just a No. 1 hit, especially its poignant opening lines: “Hello Darkness my old friend, I’ve come to talk with you again.” The man is Sanford “Sandy” Greenberg, Art’s best friend, who reveals in a moving new memoir named after that lyric, that the song was a touching tribute to his and Garfunkel’s undying bond and the singer’s sacrifice that saved Sandy’s life when he unexpectedly lost his sight.
“He lifted me out of the grave,” recalled Sandy, aged 79, who recounts his plunge into sudden blindness and how Art’s selfless devotion gave him reason to live again.
Sandy and Art, then known, met during their first week as students at the prestigious Columbia University in New York.
Here’s Sandy’s story:
“A young man wearing an Argyle sweater and corduroy pants and blond hair with a crew cut came over and said, ‘Hi, I’m Arthur Garfunkel’,” Sandy recalls.
They became roommates, bonding over a shared taste in books, poetry and music.
“Every night, Arthur and I would sing. He would play his guitar and I would be the DJ. The air was always filled with music.”
Still teenagers, they made a pact to always be there for each other in times of trouble.
“If one was in extremis, the other would come to his rescue,” says Sandy.
They had no idea their promise would be tested so soon. Just months later, Sandy recalls, “I was at a baseball game and suddenly my eyes became cloudy and my vision became unhinged. Shortly after that, darkness descended.”
Doctors diagnosed conjunctivitis, assuring it would pass. But days later, Sandy went blind, and doctors realized that glaucoma had destroyed his optic nerves.
Sandy was the son of a rag-and-bone man. His family, Jewish immigrants in Buffalo, New York, had no money to help him, so he dropped out of college, gave up his dream of becoming a lawyer, and plunged into depression.
“I wouldn’t see anyone, I just refused to talk to anybody,” said Sandy.
“And then unexpectedly Arthur flew in, saying he had to talk to me. He said, ‘You’re gonna come back, aren’t you?’
“I said, ‘No. There’s no conceivable way.’ He was pretty insistent, and finally said, ‘Look, I don’t think you get it. I need you back there. That’s the pact we made together: we would be there for the other in times of crises. I will help you’.”
Together they returned to Columbia University where Sandy became dependent on Garfunkel’s support. Art would walk Sandy to class, bandage his wounds when he fell, and even filled out his graduate school applications.
Garfunkel called himself “Darkness” in a show of empathy.
The singer explained: “I was saying, ‘I want to be together where you are, in the black’.”
Sandy recalled, “He would come in and say, ‘Darkness is going to read to you now.’ Then he would take me to class and back. He would take me around the city. He altered his entire life so that it would accommodate me.”
Art would talk about Sandy with his high-school friend Paul Simon, from Queens, New York, as the folk rock duo struggled to launch their musical careers, performing at local parties and clubs.
Though Simon wrote the song, the lyrics to The Sound of Silence are infused with Arthur’s compassion as Darkness, Sandy’s old friend.
Guiding Sandy through New York one day, as they stood in the vast forecourt of bustling Grand Central Station, Arthur said that he had to leave for an assignment, abandoning his blind friend alone in the rush-hour crowd, terrified, stumbling and falling.
“I cut my forehead,” says Sandy. “I cut my shins. My socks were bloodied. I had my hands out and bumped into a woman’s breasts. It was a horrendous feeling of shame and humiliation. I started running forward, knocking over coffee cups and briefcases, and finally I got to the local train to Columbia University. It was the worst couple of hours in my life.”
Back on campus, he bumped into a man, who apologized.
“I knew that it was Arthur’s voice,” says Sandy.
“For a moment I was enraged, and then I understood what happened: that his colossally insightful, brilliant yet wildly risky strategy had worked.”
Arthur had not abandoned Sandy at the station, but had followed him the entire way home, watching over him.
“Arthur knew it was only when I could prove to myself I could do it that I would have real independence,” says Sandy.
“And it worked, because after that I felt that I could do anything.
“That moment was the spark that caused me to live a completely different life, without fear, without doubt. For that, I am tremendously grateful to my friend.”
Sandy not only graduated, but went on to study for a master’s degree at Harvard & Oxford.
While in Britain, he received a phone call from his friend — and with it the chance to keep his side of their pact.
Arthur wanted to drop out of architecture school and record his first album with Paul but explained: “I need $400 to get started.”
Sandy, by then married to his high school sweetheart, says, “We had $404 in our current account. I said, ‘Arthur, you will have your cheque.’ It was an instant reaction, because he had helped me restart my life, and his request was the first time that I had been able to live up to my half of our solemn covenant.”
The 1964 album, Wednesday Morning, 3 AM, was a critical and commercial flop, but one of the tracks was The Sound of Silence which was released as a single the following year and went to No. 1 across the world.
“The Sound of Silence meant a lot, because it started out with the words ‘Hello darkness’ and this was Darkness singing, the guy who read to me after I returned to Columbia blind,” says Sandy.
Simon & Garfunkel went on to have four smash albums, with hits including Mrs. Robinson, The Boxer and Bridge Over Troubled Waters.
Amazingly, Sandy went on to extraordinary success as an inventor, entrepreneur, investor, presidential adviser and philanthropist.
The father of three, who launched a $3M prize to find a cure for blindness, has always refused to use a white cane or guide dog.
“I don’t want to be ‘the blind guy’,” he says. “I wanted to be Sandy Greenberg, the human being.”
Six decades later, the two men remain best friends, and Arthur credits Sandy with transforming his life.
With Sandy, “My real life emerged,” says the singer. “I became a better guy in my own eyes, and began to see who I was — somebody who gives to a friend. I blush to find myself within his dimension. My friend is the gold standard of decency.”
Says Sandy, “I am the luckiest man.”
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