The Summer Show-Off

Among today’s youth, there seems to be a general effort to brandish one’s sexual charisma. It appears that physical looks preoccupies the young mind. This can be most observable in summer.

For example, as whole communities troop to the beach to beat the scorching sun, young people find the perfect opportunity to display their bodies. The sight often borders between the vulgar and the obscene. No advice or scolding from elders can make the young to behave properly.

Many teenagers nowadays try to prove themselves by being insensitive and brash; others recklessly flaunt their parents’ hard-earned resources. They immerse themselves in vices and take prohibited drugs as ways to assert themselves. Boys that keep away from the bad habits are touted as sissies, and well-behaved girls as old-fashioned.

This wild daring and adventurism of young people springs from a need to serve a developing sensual appetite, often fanned by peer influence. Many of our young people regard mere physical appeal and a runaway sex drive as power. Young girls salivate at the sight of boys that look like wild animals, and so a young man must exhibit an uncontainable craving for sex to be attractive to girls.

Many parents have not been quite effective in teaching young people to find more acceptable ways of proving themselves. The educational discussion of sex is taboo in most homes. At best, some parents would carefully explain that at a certain age, a boy and girl have the capability to start a life, a power too magnificent to be used casually just for fun.

In general, however, those parental efforts to teach sexual responsibility to their children fall short of the actual challenge. Young people need to be taught that sexual adventurism is habit-forming and can result in grave consequences in their adult lives. Promiscuity is not the indulgence of confident, capable persons, but the practice of confused people who are desperately looking for a sense of self-worth in the wrong places.

Many young boys in my own clan had been sent by our older men to score a prostitute and be initiated. This is usually done out of fun, without realizing the real danger inherent in it.

A greenhorn male will most likely perform awkwardly with a veteran, older woman; and it is possible that he will fail in his initial attempt. Such letdown may scare him off for life. The boy may suffer from impotence afterwards — psychological impotence. What’s worse, this young man will not express his problem to adults who might help him, for fear of ridicule.

Promiscuity destroys, in as much as drug abuse does, blocking out a person’s disappointments and giving him or her a false sense of greatness. Like drugs and alcohol, hollow carnal indulgence has the same hangover the next day, with one’s disappointments still there and the person concerned even less able to cope with them. So the loser goes back for more sex, intent on immersing himself or herself again in the sensual ecstasy.

This vicious pattern can be started in adolescence. So teenagers must be careful not to indulge themselves recklessly, if they want to grow up to be coherent, secure adults. It helps to keep in mind that gluttons don’t really enjoy the taste of food.

An adolescent person can check on his or her own youthful sexual gluttony by seriously looking inward. What does a girl think when she’s going out on a date with his boyfriend? Does the boy expect an instantaneous reward for his time and effort? Does one choose the other simply to enjoy sensual pleasures, or to discover the partner’s higher personal qualities?

Young people need to understand their own biology. Throughout one’s lifespan, the male urge for sex is much stronger than the female. So, the man shall be strong enough to exercise control.

The boy should have full caution and responsibility. Summer is a most potential time for burns, both from the heat of the sun and from youthful passion. Right after a few quick minutes of physical pleasure, the young lovers slip into mental anguish and fear of the probable outcome.

A strong sex drive is a gift. It is the drive that powered the achievements of the greatest men of our time. Abraham Lincoln, William Shakespeare, Thomas Jefferson, Ralph Waldo Emerson, and Napoleon Bonaparte had high sex drives. These outstanding men were propelled to great success by a well developed but positively channeled sex drive.

The famous men of history had the wisdom in not immersing themselves in the physical indulgence of sex. Instead, they used their sexual energies to attain greater success. There is hardly any great leader or businessman or artist, past or present, lacking in the driving force of sex, the creative energy of all geniuses.

The true measure of personal power is in being able to tame the simple, instinctive sexual urge for physical contact into a higher form of desire and action. Young boys must understand this — including boys that are way past their adolescence and still wagging their wilted wicks to their own perdition, shying away from any chance of a meaningful relationship.

The oversexed person is not powerful at all, but powerless. He or she is not looking to give something… but out to get it. He or she is not a conqueror… but a loser.

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