Dear Nanay,
My friend has a business and she is already happily married. She has a client who is also married but keeps propositioning her. To make a long story short, he keeps asking her to go to bed with him. No commitments, basta just for fun daw. My friend keeps trying to avoid it nang pabiro (by joking), but every time they have a meeting he keeps propositioning her. How does she finally say no once and for all without losing the client?
Jen
Dear Jen,
Oh, my goodness! What a price to pay to keep your client!
I do not think it is worth it even if she might lose the client. If she can just keep avoiding it nang pabiro, then maybe that is the way to go. She should do her best to just PR the client and humor him to the best of her abilities without compromising her integrity.
Pero dapat ngayon pa lang maghanap na siya ng ibang (But at this early stage she should already start looking for other) clients so she is not dependent on this one just in case one day he decides to pull out because she will not agree to his demands. But if she loses the client, then so be it. The price he is asking for is one that is too high to pay.
Sincerely,
Nanay
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How To Protect Your Child On The Internet
Dear Nanay,
I have an 11-year-old child studying in a private girls’ school. She is starting to meet boys and is starting to text and use the Internet, like Friendster and chatting. I cannot monitor everything she does and I am worried about the people she might meet chatting and texting. What can I do to protect her?
Maria
Dear Maria,
Ideally, you should really start to teach your children about the pros and cons of the Internet, chatting and texting while they are still young. Para pag tanda nila, alam na nila na kailangan nilang mag-ingat. (So that when they get older, they already know to be careful.)
However, it is never too late to talk to her about the dangers. Talk to her. Help her understand na kapag nakikipagusap ka sa mga taong hindi mo kilala, baka mabait iyon sa computer pero manyak pala sa totoong buhay (that if she talks to strangers, they might seem nice online but be maniacs in real life)!
Other than that, I think you should also give her time to use the computer but keep it supervised as much as possible. Put the computer in your room. You cannot ban it completely. There are too many ways for her to access the Internet. The best you can do is to control it and to make sure she is educated. Modern technology is a powerful tool. But like anything powerful, it can be abused.
Sincerely,
Nanay
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