My problem is that I am confused about the proper approach to a proper (decent) girl. You see, I have been without a girlfriend for almost three years and I have observed that I am at a loss about the ways of courtship in the modern times. If I were to court a doctora, how must I go about it? Please give me some tips.
Thank you and more power! – Robbee Donato
I’ve talked to a lot of guys (non-doctors) who have crushes on female physicians. They ended up courting other women because they felt threatened. For them, female doctors have such a high status in society and are perceived as unreachable or as impossible dreams.
Actually, like other women, female doctors like to be wooed by men. They love to be surprised with a bunch of red roses or with a box of chocolates. They appreciate being brought to a romantic dinner. They will surely appreciate the effort their suitors take in trying to see them in between their busy schedules. If the doctor you’re interested in is still training, you may pay her a surprise visit while she’s on a 24-hour duty and bring some snacks for her.
Try talking to her friends and find out her likes and dislikes. Despite the modern times, with such technologies as cellphone texting and Internet chatting, a lot of women are still basically old-fashioned. They still prefer the kind of courtship their mothers had. That includes frequent home visits.
You know, Robbee, this way of courting is actually ideal because by visiting the lady in her home, you will meet her family and see her family’s values and attitudes about love and marriage. If you manage to give a good impression to her parents and siblings, they may even influence the girl of your dreams to become your girlfriend. You’ve got to be patient when you’re courting a girl. Courting a girl in her residence is an indication of your sincerity and good intentions. Most parents prefer that their female children entertain their suitors in their homes.
Talk to your mom and aunts and inquire on how they were courted by their spouses. You may still get some tips on courting from them. During courtship, it is important that you really get to know the characteristics of the girl who may later become your wife. Do you have the same likes and dislikes? Do you have the same values and attitudes about family life? Do you have the same religious beliefs? Do you share the same dreams and goals? Do you have the same priorities? Do you enjoy talking to each other about any issue?
Physical appearance is not all that matters. And the process of getting to know a person during courtship is lengthy enough. So Robbee, don’t be impatient and in a hurry to have a girlfriend. Choose the right person, a woman who will blend with your own personality.
Good luck to you, Robbee. Your good looks and pleasant personality are already plus factors in courting your doctora.